Put simply, the ultimate goal of spiritual awakening is self-mastery. The ultimate goal in relationships? Also, self-mastery. Literally everything in life school, is about self-mastery. This does not imply control. It is choice, depth, clarity. It is focusing on facts not impulse, emotional response, or defensiveness. It is pausing to dissect the actions and reactions of others, to translate their misaligned thoughts, needs, words, and behaviors while choosing our own with care. It is being who we want to be, allowing the lions to rest, and redefining our views of success.